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Brand
3w ago
In our home; we have a rule: Hugs are always available whenever someone needs it. This means we will momentarily stop what we’re doing (if it’s safe); to offer a hug if someone else needs one. We have been doing this since Ryaan was little. When he was little and upset and couldn’t verbalize when he was done with a hug; I would say “I’m going to hug you until your body relaxes into mine.” Another rule we have; is that we will not let go of a hug until Ryaan is ready. I recently found out that characters at Disney are trained to do the same because “You never know when a kid really needed that hug.” And truly; Disney characters are on to something. Not all children or adults will want a hug in every moment; but by offering one AND telling that person to let go when THEY’RE ready; you provide them with full control over their emotional regulation and needs. Sometimes; it may be a one second hug and sometimes they just really need a long one. I know I’ve been there too and nothing makes me feel better than when my husband hugs me without pushing me away. Same thing goes for a child. There is such power and comfort in this non-verbal communication of welcoming a hug and not pushing someone away. None of this side hug or pat on the back. If they need a hug; really give them that hug. I firmly believe that the world would be a better place if we gave deep, meaningful hugs more when people needed them. Share this and comment below if this resonates with you.
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